The Struggle


No one talks about the struggle. To be.. to overcome…..to accept… to believe….. to heal……to breathe……to inhale……to release……to forgive.…to rebuild… to transform….to regain……..and to blossom..

We think it just happens. Like there is no process. As if newness miraculously goes from one spectrum to the other instantaneously when we decide we want to change; when it really doesn’t work that way. There is a level of struggle that comes along with it. The hard part, the hard work. The difficult intricate complex transition. The untangling and reconstructing of one morphing into anew. And sometimes it doesn’t happen as smoothly as one would like. It’s at times rugged. Ever so often uncomfortable. Temporarily strenuous. And again “HARD WORK.’

On a side note, I really don’t like the word “work” to be honest. Who wants to feel like life is work. We work for an education. We work for food. We work for shelter. We even work so we can rest. Work! Work! Work! I know. I get it. A man that doesn’t work doesn’t eat. So we can’t just “be lazy.” Right? However if we’re going to work for anything, I feel the main thing is your inner man. For it is the foundation to how YOU operate in every aspect of your life. So again, we can’t just “be lazy.” Right?

Nope. I guess not….. but we can be real. Real with ourselves. At the exact stage we’re at. This is one of the hardest parts, accepting your full self in the present. Yes I have insecurities and abandonment issues. Yes I procrastinate a lot. Yes! Yes to the truth. I humbly surrender to the power of the truth of who I am. Because who I am is ME. Me with all of my flaws and all of my mistakes and all of my voids.

BUT WHO I AM IS WHO I WAS CREATED TO BE. NOT IN COMPARISON TO. NOT “WHAT IF”. NOT “IF I COULD JUST.” NOT ACCORDING TO MY “PERFORMANCE.” NOT BASED ON HOW I LOOK. BUT JUST ME. JUST AS I AM. EXACTLY AS I AM. ENOUGH.

I’m learning to sincerely love and accept myself because HE WHO CREATED ME, CREATED ME OUT OF LOVE AND ALREADY ACCEPTED ME......with no stipulations

You have to believe this truth. Everything was created for a purpose. Pay attention to the cycle of life. Every living thing serves a purpose. From the birds in the sky to the worms on the ground. Aren’t you greater than they?

As simple as it sounds, AGAIN You and I have to believe it. It’s critical for your growth.

Don’t worry it’s a process. Someone told me their process of wholeness has been 6 years and counting. This meaning everything will not always come together all at once. One thing might come together while something else is falling apart. That is part of the struggle and your life’s journey. The struggle that is preparing you for your purpose. You’re not perfect and plenty of mistakes will be made. You will have a lot of frustrating moments. The pits and peaks of life will routinely interrupt your conditions. But you have to remember “all things” are working together for your good.

Don’t worry I’m gone keep y’all hip. I know I’m not the only one out here looking like this sometimes while everybody out here always “ living there best life.” I mean if y’all are, let a sister know your secret.

Anyway see y’all next Wednesday. We need to talk! ....Oh and go check out the snippet for the week

The struggle is necessery. Who wants to listen to a person who AIN’T been through nothing. I mean you can't tell me how to overcome depression if you AINT never been depressed. “You don’t know what I go through homie.” -Shunda

What are some of your struggles!? Comment below